Do you people do this?
Have you ever found yourself saying things like, “Once this happens, then I’ll be able to focus on that.” or “After this is finalized, life will be so much better.”
I catch myself doing it all the time. The fact that I was doing it just now was the impetus for this blog post. It’s tricky, isn’t it? Sometimes I think focusing too much on creating the perfect circumstances for whatever it is (life, job, love, etc.) means you’re either a) not accomplishing what you want to do because you’re letting outside influences affect your plan or b) you’re not accomplishing what you want to do because you’re not looking at the big picture and instead focusing on micro-details.
This is not a good thing. Well, I certainly can’t find an upside to it. Yes, maybe sometimes those “ifs” and “whens” truly are dependent on something you have no control over (like legal issues, or waiting on another person to give you info/help you/provide resources or support) but most of the time they’re not.
I think we spend too much time looking ahead at then and not paying close enough attention to now. To give you an example, I sometimes find myself thinking, “Once Ms. Junior Peanut is old enough, then I can really get back to serious writing.”
Well, sure. All you parents out there know how much time and effort are involved with raising children — and the amount of time and effort seem to be inversely proportional to the age of the child, but I digress — and don’t get me wrong, that is time absolutely well spent. But it doesn’t leave a whole lot for anything else. Right now, it’s enough that we all have clean clothes to wear and meals on the table. And really, just when is “old enough”? I have a sneaking suspicion that’s the answer of a procrastinator.
Guilty as charged, your honour.
But there are moms (and dads) who not only have infants in their lives but also manage to write books at the same time. So there must be a way to do it, right? The question becomes, what do you sacrifice to be able to do what you want to do? And when do you wait versus when do you just close your eyes and make the leap?
I think this is a motivation post. I’m not entirely sure because I feel like I’ve just been rambling on. But I think I just need to stop worrying about when the conditions are right and just do what I can. Maybe now is the right time to just enjoy my new baby girl and not think about writing books. Maybe I’m just prioritizing poorly and need to fix that so I can do both. I don’t know what the correct answer is to all of this. And that, on top of everything else, is the most frustrating of all.
So what say you, Gentle Reader? Any thoughts?